It was the blog post seen ’round the Internet in October of 2012. Writer and mom Allison Slater Tate realized her kids’ photographic memories of their childhood would be void of her, as most all pictures of them were taken by her, not with her. Some of that was a matter of circumstance, as she did the majority of the shooting. But mostly it was because she didn’t feel comfortable in front of the lens. At the time, she wrote, “We’re sporting mama bodies and we’re not as young as we used to be. We don’t always have time to blow dry our hair, apply make-up, perhaps even bathe.”
Ahna Tessler, a New York City mom of 3-year-old twins, Elliot and Madzie, with her husband, John Harrison, is also missing from her kids’ photos. Except in Tessler’s case, her absence has nothing to do with feeling self-conscious.
“I take countless photos of my husband with our children,” she told Babble. “Unfortunately my husband (like many fathers) wasn’t born with these same instincts and there are about 5 photos (excluding all the damn selfies I’m forced to take) of me and my children that he has taken. I have asked him numerous times to take more pictures of us, but his response is ‘Just tell me when to take it and I will.’ He’s a great guy — really! Just not so great at this.”
A comedian who’s had to relinquish her comedy career while mothering her kids full time, Tessler hasn’t actually stopped being funny. Hilarious, actually. Since caring for 3-year-old twins means she’s “lucky to be able to even take three showers a week … and even luckier to find the time to be creative,” Tessler has had to figure out other ways to express her ingenuity. Making jewelry has been one. Learning Photoshop has been another, which has allowed her to step into the picture at long last.
Literally. Well, literally with Photoshop.
“I took matters into my own hands,” Tessler said. “I learned Photoshop — crappily — and superimposed myself into photos that I took of John with the kids.”
It’s not clear what Elliot and Madzie will think of the photos when they look at them from the other side of their childhood, although it’s certain they’ll see their mom was hardly, if ever, boring. Just in time for Mother’s Day, Tessler’s present to herself (and potentially to her kids) is her presence in their photos.
“Now there’s finally proof that I exist in this family,” she said triumphantly.
Take a look …