As if we couldn’t love Sandra Bullock any more than we already do, she recently had some pretty relatable things to say about sexual harassment, self-confidence, social media, and motherhood in her recent interview with InStyle. And her words? Gold. Pure gold.
Bullock, named by the Guinness Book of World Records as the highest paid film actress in 2015, has played our favorite mom in many popular films including The Blind Side, Premonition, and Hope Floats. But her real mothering happens off-screen every day. In 2010, she adopted her infant son Louis, and then in 2015 she adopted Laila, a toddler who had been in the foster care system.
When asked about adopting her children, Bullock shared:
“Let’s all just refer to these kids as ‘our kids.’ Don’t say ‘my adopted child.’ No one calls their kid their ‘IVF child’ or their ‘Oh, sh*t, I went to a bar and got knocked-up child.’ Let just say, ‘our children.'”
As a mom of four children who were adopted transracially — meaning the parents are one race and the children are another race — we are often approached by strangers who demand to know “the deets.” Why couldn’t I have my “own” kids? Where are the kids’ “real” parents? Were they young? On drugs? Are my kids “real” siblings?
But by far, one of the most hurtful and offensive things someone can say to me is to refer to my kids as our “adopted children.” Because first and foremost, they are our children, no qualifier necessary. We don’t wake up in the morning and greet our children as our “adopted kids,” but instead, like any parent, call our children by their names. Likewise, when one of our kids has a nightmare, they don’t cry out for their “adoptive mom” or “adoptive dad” to come comfort them.
Though Sandra Bullock’s family is conspicuous, both because of her celebrity status but also because her family was built by transracial adoption, it doesn’t make Sandra any less of a mother, Louis any less of a son, and Laila any less of a daughter. They are simply a family.
But aside from her straightforward views on motherhood, there are other reasons Sandra is the girlfriend we’re all dying to have a coffee with.
In the same interview, she shares that at age 16, she had her own “me too” experience, which recently inspired her to donate $500,000 to the Time’s Up movement.
“It’s our duty to do whatever we can to help,” said Bullock. “I can safely say there is not one person I know who hasn’t experienced some form of [harassment] or doesn’t know someone [it’s happened to].”
She also opened up about social media, saying unlike most celebrities, she has also chosen not be on social media for her own sanity.
“Oh god, I would have one glass of rosé and be spouting off like [slurs voice], ‘This is not the truth!'” she joked. Still, she said she plans to get familiar when her kids are old enough to have their own accounts.
She even dished about being self-conscious, stating, “I don’t feel confident when I dress up and go on the red carpet. I’m not that person who knows how to work it. I try to channel Beyoncé. I do the same pose every time.”
Her authenticity and transparency make her one of my favorite celebrities. And I think my mad-mommy-crush was renewed by the way she spoke of her children. She says Louis, whom she refers to as Lou, is “wise and kind. I saw that when they handed him to me. There was a spiritual bigness to him.”
“She’s a fighter, and that’s the reason she’s here today,” said Bullock. “She fought to keep her spirit intact. Oh my god, what she is going to accomplish. She’s going to bring some real change.”
True words of a proud mom!