Oh, potty training. How I remember you …
I remember those days of sprinting through Target and cutting the bathroom line with my toddler. I remember packing three outfit changes in my diaper bag and using every last one. I remember changing wet bed sheets at 2 AM.
But most of all, I remember my almost 9-year-old wetting the bed at night. (Yes, you read that right.) I remember my son’s frustration and my concern. I remember him not wanting to spend the night at his best friend’s house for fear of wetting his sleeping bag.
I remember talking to his pediatrician, comparing his dry-night timeline to those of my friends’ kids, and researching everything I could find about nighttime wetting.
I also remember discovering GoodNites Nighttime Underwear and taking comfort in their L/XL size for kids 60-125 lbs. To me, this meant there were kids out there like mine who were maybe taking a little longer to achieve nighttime dryness. Oh, how I needed to know this back then. And oh, how I wished more people were talking about it!
Thankfully, the conversation about potty training as it pertains to nighttime dryness is finally happening, thanks to the people at GoodNites and actress and host Tamera Mowry-Housley.
Babble caught up with the busy mom of two to discuss the many ups and downs of potty training — a subject Mowry-Housley knows all about. Her 4-year-old son Aden just celebrated nighttime dryness himself, which was a major (and hard-won) potty training victory.
As Mowry-Housley shares, the whole potty training experience didn’t come without a few challenges. Expectations (as they so often do) got in the way. She tells Babble:
“[Potty training] was definitely harder than I expected, mainly because I didn’t know the difference between a child being potty trained, or being dry during the day and being dry at night. Being dry at night is a completely different task. I somehow automatically thought that if my son was dry during the day, he was going to be dry at night. That didn’t happen.”
I didn’t know that either! My son was completely potty trained during the day for years, but the nights told a very different story.
“At the time, I didn’t know, so I was freaking out,” says Mowry-Housley. “I was questioning myself as a parent. I was questioning my son, and that’s normal, too.”
“You know, a lot of parents start to freak out if they don’t have the knowledge that they need,” she adds.
When Mowry-Housley teamed up with GoodNites, she learned that one in six kids experience nighttime wetting, and that some kids just take a little longer to be dry at night.
From my own experience, I can tell you this is critical potty intel. Mowry-Housley thinks so, too, which is why she’s spreading the word that until those dry nights happen, there is a backup solution.
” … there is an amazing nighttime solution with GoodNites Nighttime Underwear that just help you as a parent rest easy, and help your child rest easy,” she shares. “Because the fact is that your child will eventually grow out of it. It’s simply a matter of their physical development.”
Enough with the beating ourselves up. Enough with the wet mornings ruining anyone’s day. Enough with the judgment and the comparisons. Mowry-Housley understands the pressures of potty training as much as we do:
“I think I had to learn how to kind of decipher through all the noise, the societal pressure that you get from other moms,” she says. “And the judgment could be close to you. It could be your in-laws. It could be your own parents. It could be your sister or your brother, but the reality is that you cannot compare. You cannot compare every child. It’s unfair to you, you’re causing unnecessary stress to yourself. And it’s unfair to your child. And just know that you’re going to get through it. It’s going to be OK.”
When I think of all the nights I stayed up worrying about nighttime dryness. All the nights I considered waking my son from a deep sleep just to use the potty in the hopes of a dry morning. What I should have been doing was chilling out. Because as Mowry-Housley says, “Every child has their different timeline. Every child has their different experience; they have a different story. And, if we’re stressed about it, then they’re going to be stressed about it. And there’s no reason to be. Being a parent is already stressful and challenging, so why add on unnecessary stress by comparing yourself?”
Why, indeed. Now on the other side of potty training, the busy mom of two plans on approaching potty training a little differently when the time comes with her daughter, Ariah, age 2:
“I now know about GoodNites Nighttime Underwear. I’m not going to be worried. I’m going to let my child let me know when she’s ready. And, you know, if she takes a little bit longer to be dry at night, there’s no reason to stress out because I know eventually nighttime dryness will evolve as she gets older, because I’ve already been through it with Aden. I’m not worried at all, and I wasn’t that way with Aden. Whether they’re a boy or a girl, every child is different.”
Every child is different, but in the game of potty training, one thing remains constant: the need for support.
“I think it’s important as a mom to talk about your experiences and share your experiences,” Mowry-Housley tells Babble. “And it’s also important to say that if you have any questions about nighttime wetting, you can always just ask your pediatrician.”
To learn more about potty training and nighttime wetting, visit GoodNites.com.