Kim Overton is not your average mother.
For one thing, she’s a pretty rad entrepreneur who founded the fitness/health accessory, SPIbelt. And for another, Overton became a parent as what she dubs, a “Solo Starter,” when she chose to become a single mother to her first son in 2010.
Now, Overton is making waves for the beautiful pictures of her becoming a mother for the second time, through the miracle of surrogacy.
After being diagnosed with fibroid tumors and undergoing surgery, Overton was able to successfully conceive and deliver her first son. But following a second removal surgery in 2012, Overton was having trouble conceiving. Still a single mother at that point, Overton was told that there may just be “too much stuff going on” with her uterus.
After a year-and-a-half of unsuccessful attempts and a widening age gap between the siblings she hoped would be close together, Overton, 44, still didn’t give up hope. (“Entrepreneurs make great single parents,” she says with a laugh. “We’re used to persevering.” Talking with one of her cousins, the topic of surrogacy came up and before she knew it, her cousin’s 26-year-old daughter, Cydnee Black, called her with an offer to carry her child.
“Our family is pretty tight, our Grandma was the center of our family, we’re all in Austin, and for her, it was like, ‘Of course, I want to help Kim,'” Overton explained to me over the phone. “It was a very beautiful moment.”
Black, who has two children of her own, started on the long year-and-a-half long journey to surrogacy with Overton, during which time Overton met and married her husband, Jason, who also had a 5-year-old son. By the time Overton wed in a beachside ceremony in Maui, Black was pregnant with Overton’s biological son, Oliver.
Seemingly overnight, all of Overton’s dreams had come true.
And while walking into an instant family and surrogate birth would faze some men, Jason was overjoyed to become a father again. “He was extremely supportive and loving and understanding,” says Overton. “He was absolutely amazing about it. He gets it.”
Throughout the pregnancy, Overton and Jason attended every single doctor’s appointment and supported Black in any way they could. And despite the process being a bit of a “roller coaster” of emotions, Overton says Black never wavered in her gift to them. “She is awesome and we couldn’t ask for a better surrogate,” Overton gushes. “She was positive through the thing.”
On March 21st at 12:02 PM, after three years, two new family members, and 37 weeks of pregnancy, Overton finally met her son. And the pictures, as the saying goes, speak a thousand words.
“Words can’t describe that moment,” Overton says, awe creeping into her voice. “It was surreal — it was a three-year journey, it was like climbing through the mountain, like ‘we made it!’ She pushed four times, it was a beautiful birth. Once he came out, it was emotional and loving, we were laughing and crying at the same time. It was like a dream.”
“My son was in the room the entire time and he was like, ‘That was great!'” remembers Overton. “I’m glad he was there.”
When I asked how her two very different births compared, Overton paused before she replied. “It’s very hard to compare,” she admitted. “My first was a dream come true. But this — it was like having two dreams come true. I’ve heard people question that, wondering if a mom could have the same attachment, but I’m sitting here now to tell you it was instant love. It took so long and he was in my cousin’s body, but it was just instant love.”
Now 3 weeks old, Oliver is settling in great. Dad Jason takes the night shift with the baby, while Overton mans the morning — and both big brothers are so excited to have a new little sidekick.
“They are so helpful, they go in the room and hand us the diaper,” laughs Overton. “It’s been great, they want to be part of his life. Everyone around us is so excited.”
Overton explains that both her son and Black’s daughters have taken the entire surrogacy process in stride. Her son was present when she had her surgery and understood that his mom’s tummy was “sick,” so it was a simple explanation when he learned his brother was in his cousin Cydnee’s belly.
“It just became normal,” she says. “It just became the story he knew and understood, nothing about it was odd. It all kind of makes sense to him.”
Because little Oliver made his appearance three weeks early, he actually got to be the guest of honor at his own baby shower. As he grows and learns his own birth story, Overton notes that Oliver will decide what he wants to call Cydnee, who continues to nurse Oliver whenever possible and pump to provide milk. The most important thing, she says, is that he’ll know “how loved he is.”
These days, Oliver is living a pretty relaxed life, hanging out with his mom at the office in his swing.
“We are very excited about the changes our lives have taken in a year — we went from a family of two to a family of five,” Overton explains. “It honestly feels like a party at our house. Above everything, we’re just grateful and giddy. It all feels meant to be. I feel like I’ve gotten a new charge, I’m just grateful and more excited for life.”