10 Things I Hope I Never Forget to Say to My Kids

10 Things to Never Forget to Say to Kids

Planning a family at almost 35 years old certainly has both its drawbacks and advantages. But one of the aspects I particularly enjoy is the time I have to hone in on the type of mother I want to be for my children. I’ve gotten to work on my patience, break some bad habits before I get pregnant, and most recently I’ve taken a moment to consider and make note of things I don’t ever want to forget to say to my children.

In an all-too busy world, and with my life about to become even more hectic, I feared that the hustle and bustle of everyday life could make me forget the little things that I believe are so important in helping raise emotionally healthy children. So I created this post as a reminder of what to say to my kids.

After the jump, check out 10 Things I Hope I Never Forget to Say to My Kids. What little niceties to do you say to your kids to help them grow?

  • It’s OK to Cry 1 of 10
    It's OK to Cry
    Who doesn't like a good cry? I know I very much enjoy the occasional sob -- be it from a cheesy Hallmark movie or that heart-wrenching SPCA commercial with Sarah McLachlan, letting the tears flow is quite therapeutic. I cringe when I hear people tell their children, "Stop crying!" Surely, we'd never say, "Stop smiling!" Let the emotions be.
    Photo: mdpai75
  • That Was Really Good of You 2 of 10
    That Was Really Good of You
    I know in adult life, rarely do we hear praise and all too often we hear criticism. I think encouragement is underrated and that we naturally thrive with positive feedback.
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  • You Can Take Your Time 3 of 10
    You Can Take Your Time
    Since patience is not my strongest virtue, this one will be my biggest challenge. I know there will be many situations that I won't be able to afford to give an extra few minutes, but when I can, I'll be glad to let my little ones move at their own pace.
    Photo: woodleywonderworks
  • I’m Sorry 4 of 10
    I'm Sorry
    This is hard for me now with adults, but I especially think that with kids it's important to apologize to them when we do something wrong. After all, aren't we constantly telling them to "go say sorry?" What sort of example do we set if we never apologize?
    Photo: butupa
  • You Made a Mistake. Everybody Makes Mistakes. It’s OK. 5 of 10
    You Made a Mistake. Everybody Makes Mistakes. It's OK.
    Again, harping on the negative, it seems we're all so quick to point out a mistake. "To err is human." Yet so often it seems mistakes are all we focus on. I hope to let my kids know that mistakes are some of our greatest learning tools.
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  • I Believe in You 6 of 10
    I Believe in You
    I've witnessed firsthand what the power of encouragement and knowing that someone else is in your corner can do for another human being. It forces us to dig deeper and work for something greater than ourselves. And it pushes us when we would have otherwise given up. I will be my children's greatest cheerleader.
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  • What Do You Think Will Be Best? 7 of 10
    What Do You Think Will Be Best?
    I feel as though we're constantly "doing for" children -- and don't get me wrong: there are many times they need things done for them -- but teaching them early that their decision is respected and valued, I believe, helps them become stronger and better decision makers who more quickly learn good and not-so-good decision-making skills.
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  • I Will Always Love You. Nothing You Say or Do or Become Will Ever Change That. 8 of 10
    I Will Always Love You. Nothing You Say or Do or Become Will Ever Change That.
    This one, and the two that follow, were added by my wife. And they simply melt my heart. Unconditional love seems like a "given" when it comes to your children. Sadly, that has not been the case for my wife. The inability of some to accept that she's gay has taken a significant toll on her. But it's also been a wonderful learning experience for us and has taught us the vital importance of loving others for exactly who they are -- and of verbalizing it.
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  • Who You Are Is Just Who I Want You to Be 9 of 10
    Who You Are Is Just Who I Want You to Be
    Society, the media, and even people in our lives seem to constantly influence and change who we are. What is up with that? This is life. Not some cookie-cutter village. But it's hard to remember that we're OK the way we are. So we hope to remind our children that they don't have to be anybody that they're not -- especially not for us.
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  • You Are My Greatest Joy 10 of 10
    You Are My Greatest Joy
    Really, what more needs to be said?
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