Today marks four years since I lost Triton. The grief today has hit me harder then I expected it to, but I was as prepared for it as I could be. Grief never really goes away, you just sort of get used to it always being around. It doesn’t randomly knock on me as often as it did a few years ago, but for sure on days like today I can feel it’s weight on me. I am being kinder to myself today, celebrating his birth with a cake and letting myself feel what I feel without shame.
Navigating the grief of baby loss — whether that be due to ectopic pregnancy, miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal death — can feel isolating and lonely. There is still this overall silence we feel, but for healthy grieving to occur (which is very important), we must be given the space to heal through talking, sharing and gathering resources.
Thankfully, there are some amazing support sites available for individuals, families and friends who have been touched by baby loss and perinatal grief. Support groups that give us the space to heal and grieve and talk ,while giving us valuable resources and a space to connect and remove that isolation feeling.
Click through for 10 websites dedicated to healing, support and grief support all baby loss parents should bookmark and visit:
Cora’s Story 1 of 10
Faces of Loss, Faces of Hope 2 of 10Founded by Kristin after the loss of her little girl Stevie, Faces of Loss, Faces of Hope is a place for those who have experienced loss to come together and share their stories and their faces with others who may be looking for reassurance that they are not alone. Resources, forums and submission of your own story are all available.
Visit the website at: FacesOfLoss.com
Count The Kicks 3 of 10Count the Kicks was founded by Sophia after she lost her stillborn daughter Chloe. Count the Kicks aim to empower Mums with knowledge and confidence throughout pregnancy in the hope that this will result in a reduction in the Stillbirth and Neonatal death.
Visit the website at: CountTheKicks.org.uk
Finley’s Footprints 4 of 10After the loss of her son Finley, founder Mel created the site to support, inform and provide services for families who have lost a child.
Visit the website at: FinleysFootprints.com
Unspoken Grief 5 of 10I founded Unspoken Grief just over a year ago in honor of Triton. This is a space for anyone who has been touched directly or indirectly by ectopic pregnancy, miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal death to share their stories of grief. Stories can be shared anonymously or as your own blog on the site. Resources and support available as well for moms, dads, family and friends.
Visit the website at: UnspokenGrief.com
Names In The Sand 6 of 10Founded by Carly in memory of her son Christian, she and her husband work to give memories of their children. They take requests from all over the world (free-of-charge) to write a child's name in the sand and that photograph is mailed to the family.
Visit the website at: NamesInTheSand
Band Back Together 7 of 10A community weblog open to all, created by Aunt Becky, Band Back Together features stories from all walks of life, including stories of miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS and neonatal death. They offer space to share your story and provide resources for support.
Visit the website at: BandBackTogether.com
Baby Loss Comfort 8 of 10Baby Loss Comfort provides information and products for those who have lost a child or are looking to support someone through their grief. They have space for you to share your story of remembrance.
Visit the website at: BabyLossComfort.com
March of Dimes 9 of 10March of Dimes has a large resource on their website for miscarriage, stillbirth and neonatal death. Information on what to watch for, what to expect and where to find help.
Visit the website at: MarchOfDimes
Yasminah’s Gift Of Hope 10 of 10Founder Rebecca began this website in honor of her daughter Yasminah. Her site provides support, understanding, information and an opportunity to create lasting memories and keepsakes.
Visit the website at: YGOH.org.au
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