5 Things You May Not Expect After a Miscarriage, But Could Potentially Happen

5 Things You May Not Expect After a Miscarriage That Could Happen My heart is breaking for a friend and colleague and there are so many of you who have also lost recently. I want you to know I am thinking of you.

The first few weeks after experiencing a miscarriage can be overwhelming. Feelings of guilt, numbness, sadness and anger are surging through the body while you’re trying to make sense of what’s happened. It plagues our minds. It’s not  an experience we ever anticipate, so when it hits we’re left scrambling through the feelings.

Miscarriage and perinatal grief are still not widely discussed and it’s a big passion of mine to increase the support and dialogue of loss so that if it happens to us, we’re not left in the dark about what to expect.

Often when we leave the hospital, after the most painful times of our lives, we’re not given much in terms of support. We’re sometimes told what to expect, but even then it’s left to more medical details, leaving out so many important mental-health issues.

Having undergone 12 losses myself, I have experienced a lot of different emotions and medical symptoms  There are 5 in particular that someone may not expect after a loss, but that could potentially happen. And that worst thing is to be unexpectedly hit with them:

  • You May Never Find Out Why 1 of 5
    For me personally, I wanted to know why I was having a miscarriage and I know many women want to know "what went wrong" too. For some people, they may never find out why and that's not abnormal.
    Also read: Causes and Contributing Risk Factors of Miscarriage.
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  • You’re At Risk for PPD 2 of 5
    There has been a lot of avocation for understanding the signs of Postpartum depression in women after they give birth. The truth is, that even after miscarriage a woman is at risk as well. It can be complicated and hard to decipher from grief, but it's important to keep an eye on the signs.
    Also read: Postpartum Depression After Miscarriage and Beyond Grief, Recognizing Major Depression
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  • You May or May Not Cry 3 of 5
    No one really knows how they will react after the death of someone they love ad when it comes to miscarriage, that can become even more blurred. We each grief in our own way and if someone else may not cry while you're crying daily -- it doesn't mean they're not dealing with it and it doesn't mean you're not dealing with it well. It's all indivdual to our own circumstances. It is important to keep an eye out for any development of depression vs grief and it's also important to face your feelings -- talk to someone.
    Also read: 5 Stages of Perinatal Grief.
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  • People May Be Insensitive, Not on Purpose 4 of 5
    People generally always mean good, but there are some circumstance people just don't seem to know what to do. Miscarriage is one of those times. You may have people ignore completely what happened, say something that you found hurtful or just distant. While it's not something that we should have to deal with, society in general still has a lot to learn about perinatal grief.
    Also read: Support Myth: I didn't want to make it worse so I said nothing.
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  • Your Milk May Come In 5 of 5
    If you've been through a second trimester loss or stillbirth, you may not expect it, but your milk could still come in. Your body treats it the same as a live birth and you will have this extra hurdle to get over as well. It's not something anyone really prepares us for, but there are ways you can relieve engorgement.
    Also read: Managing Milk Production After Loss.
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For more information and support, visit UnspokenGrief.com

Photo credit: adapted from iStockphoto

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