7 Common Myths About Miscarriage & Grief — Exposed

I have been working with a lot of families over the past year and a half since the launch of Unspoken Grief. It has been incredibly healing for my own personal journey and I have had the great privilege of having those touched directly and indirectly by miscarriage share their stories with me.

I have learned so much about the commonalities amongst those who have suffered loss and are grieving and one of the loudest things I hear is “we wish more people would understand and support us“. The truth is, that while many have been touched by miscarriage, people on a whole are still very unaware of the real impact and real grief that a family can go through after miscarriage. There are a lot of very widespread myths over what happens after a miscarriage — from an emotional and physical perspective. I believe it is these myths that hold back support for those who are in need after a miscarriage and I would love to see these myths exposed.

Click through to read 7 common myths about miscarriage & grief and learn the real truth:

  • “It’s not a big deal” 1 of 7
    "It's not a big deal"
    On a whole, those who have not experienced a miscarriage or had someone close to them go through the grief, many don't feel it's 'that bad'. The truth is while it may not impact every person the same way, a miscarriage can have a huge impact and the grief is real.
    Photo credit: Trinidad Sky on Flickr
  • “You get over it quickly” 2 of 7
    "You get over it quickly"
    Usually thought again by someone who has not experienced miscarriage directly or indirectly, it can often appear that we 'get over it' quickly. The truth is many of us hide the pain or don't let it out when we're around people who don't understand. I am still not certain you ever get over it. Though, again there are some who move through the stages quicker than others, but one is not better.
    Photo credit: sandra lee schubert on Flickr
  • “You can always just try again” 3 of 7
    "You can always just try again"
    I have always been troubled by the phrase "try again". While one can usually continue your path their expanding their family, the truth is their next pregnancy will not be the same and some may not be able to conceive.
    Photo credit: the daisy chick on Flickr
  • “It’s just a heavy period” 4 of 7
    "It's just a heavy period"
    There are a lot of people who believe that the whole experience of miscarriage starts and stops when the bleeding does. The truth is it's much more than just the physical, which is also more than just a heavy period. There are hormone drops, grief and emotions that come into play as well.
    Photo credit: Alex Barth on Flickr
  • “It won’t happen again” 5 of 7
    "It won't happen again"
    Miscarriage is common with most statistics saying that 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. Many of these are now known due to early pregnancy testing methods. While, it is not common to have multiple miscarriages the truth is it may happen again. If you have had 3 miscarriages in a row, that is when testing is recommended.
    Photo credit: sandra lee schubert on Flickr
  • “It wasn’t a real baby” 6 of 7
    "It wasn't a real baby"
    There may not be those who will say this out loud (but it does happen),but this is certainly thought by many in our society. The truth is this isn't a pro-choice/pro-life conversation, it is a common feeling of connection between mother and baby who were excited about their pregnancy. It was a real baby and they should be given the space and respect to grieve as such.
    Photo credit: geekgurl7 on Flickr
  • “It was probably my fault” 7 of 7
    "It was probably my fault"
    One of the more common anxieties by women after loss, it's hard to come to terms with this one. The truth is many times the cause of a miscarriage is not known and usually not determined to be a result of anything the mom did (or didn't) do.
    Photo credit: geekgurl7 on Flickr


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