Last week I shared my thoughts on reasons someone should not adopt. From loneliness to giving your current child a playmate, there are some really not well thought out reasons that people might add a child to their family.
So let’s talk about reasons you should consider adoption. And by should – I mean you have that tug already. Not because you feel obligated, or people are telling you it’s the right thing to do, but simply because it’s an option you’d like to consider for your family.
Main reasons given in our society these days are:
- Rescuing a child
- Helping population control (didn’t say I agreed with them all)
- Ethical obligations
But some of these have other options besides adoption that couples have a right to choose. Adoption isn’t for everyone, and isn’t the right or even best choice for many families. That’s ok.
Here are some great reasons to think about adoption if it interests you:
Your child’s sibling is up for adoption 1 of 6Sometimes families that domestically adopt a child find out later that their sibling is also in need of a home. The agency or social worker may broach you initially to find out if you're interested in pursuing the adoption before they look for another family.
You’d like to expand your family 2 of 6This is by far the most common reason for adoption, it's also a great one. You'd like a child or more children, and there are many in need of forever families.
You feel the tug to adopt 3 of 6Whether it was a mission trip or working with foster kids, feeling your heart strings tugged by adoption is a wonderful reason to look into more. Make sure it isn't for "rescuing" a child though.
Your extended family is unable to care for that child 4 of 6I know of several families that have adopted a young cousin, nephew, or grandchild. This can often be a good way to keep the family united around the child and the surroundings familiar, while still offering them a safe and stable environment to grow up.
A non-traditional family is ok with you 5 of 6Have an open mind about what the term "family" means? Adoption might be for you. It's a reminder to ourselves and others that families can come in all shapes, sizes, and from different parts of the world.
A child with special needs would fit your parenting style 6 of 6Children with special needs, often referred to as a "waiting child", are very much high priority for adoption. If you have the time, love, and patience to offer a child who may require extra or a lifetime of care, consider this option.
What are your reasons for thinking about or actually adopting? Can you add any to this list?