Crap! It's Another Baby Shower

pregnant women You’ve heard the saying, “Always the bridesmaid, never the bride,” right? I feel like this applies to me and baby showers. Always the guest, never the honoree.

Don’t get me wrong, I still like baby showers. It’s not like I expect people to not throw one because little old me is having a bitter moment of infertility. But sometimes when I attend one and the entire conversation is just babies and mothering and diapers and cute clothing, I kind of want to run away and hide.

Here are some considerations for both the host and infertile invitee to help make the shower a little more comfortable.

For the host:
– Always invite the infertile friend but don’t get offended if they don’t come.
– At the shower, encourage conversation about several topics and not just babies.
– Ask them if they want to be involved somehow. Planning for the party might prove to be a good distraction for them.
– Don’t bring up their childlessness.

For the infertile invitee:
– Look at the shower as a celebration for your friend, not a time to be resentful.
– Feel free to decline the invitation and just send a gift instead.
– Prep yourself. Don’t go into it thinking it’s going to be terrible, tell yourself it will be okay.
– Be ready with responses for any comments that might come up about your childlessness.
– Volunteer to help with the party.

Do you have any suggestions to add?

image: Amelia Johnson

Article Posted 5 years Ago

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