It will happen to you at least once during pregnancy. Someone you may or may not know takes it upon themselves to come up to your very pregnant belly and touch it. They might rub it to see if they can feel the baby, or just might give it a good pat. Either way, they’ve done it without asking you first because they feel your belly is there to share with the world.
I’ve never been one for people getting into my personal space, so you can only imagine my thoughts when people come up unannounced and touch my stomach.
I’ve never felt the need or even had the desire to touch a pregnant woman’s belly before, so it makes it even more difficult for me to relate with people that want to touch mine.
I live in a city where a lot of people have no shame in telling me how to parent and they surely don’t have a problem coming up to me to fondle by baby bump. I’m not sure why people feel the need to just come up and touch it. Is there some sort of satisfaction people get in touching a complete strangers pregnant belly? There is nothing magical about the experience, for either of us.
During my first pregnancy I hated when people would touch my stomach and it seems that the feeling hasn’t changed with this pregnancy. I’m even uncomfortable with my family coming up and touching it. Part of it may be due to the fact that by the time my belly gets big enough to attract people to touch it, I feel VERY unattractive. The last thing I want is someone coming up and touching my stomach that feels like its the size of a watermelon.
The only two people that I will allow to touch my big pregnant belly whenever they choose are my husband and my daughter. I love it when my husband rubs my belly because it helps him connect with the baby and I think it helps strengthen our relationship. My daughter loves to come up and rub my stomach while talking to her baby sister. She is constantly lifting up my shirt to take a good look at my belly and rub it. I find it endearing when both of them do it.
What do you think about people rubbing your belly?
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