Having Kids in My Mid-30s: What I’ll Miss Most About My Childless Life

In three days, I’m going to be 35. Thirty-five, folks. Me. Don’t ask me how this happened, because I have no idea how I got here.

Sure, it’s not that old. And I know I have plenty of life left in me, and years ahead of me. But let’s face it: 35 is kind of a big deal. Especially since I’m just now starting my family.

I see my friends who had kids years ago, and their children are going into kindergarten, starting junior high school, and getting their driver’s licenses. Me? I’m not even pregnant yet. Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not totally comparing my life to theirs, or even necessarily expressing disappointment in the decisions I’ve made in my life that have kept me childless — heck, I’ve had a good run.


I will say this: The older I get, the harder it becomes to have kids. And I’m not talking about the biological reasons, as real as they might be. I’m talking about changing my life after thirty-five years of living it as I have.

Make no mistake about it. I’m ready for parenthood. And I want to become a mother more than I’ve ever wanted anything in my life. But saying goodbye to certain lifestyle habits is bittersweet.

  • Oh, How My Life Will Change… 1 of 6
    Oh, How My Life Will Change...
    Click through to see the reasons why...
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  • Saying Goodbye to Full Nights of Sleep 2 of 6
    Saying Goodbye to Full Nights of Sleep
    I'm certain that I look nothing like this while I'm sleeping, but I assure you that this is exactly how I feel. On average, I get a solid eight to nine hours of sleep. Every night. And I've enjoyed great nights of sleep for my entire adult life, making this that much harder to go without.
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  • Interruption to Regular Routine 3 of 6
    Interruption to Regular Routine
    My wife and I enjoy mid-morning, at-home Sunday brunches. Just the two of us. Our work schedules are opposite, so these brunches are our precious time to catch up on the week's happenings and simply spend quality time together. I find it hard to believe that either of us will have the energy to soft boil eggs, de-seed cucumbers, slice apples, and bake fish for brunch.
  • No More Spontaneity 4 of 6
    No More Spontaneity
    This is us, about to enter a corn maze. We were Sunday driving one Fall, and saw a sign for a corn maze, and since we had not a thing to do with our day, we went! Not a thing to do. We're preparing to kiss that luxury goodbye.
  • I’ll Be Nearly 60 When My Kids Graduate High School 5 of 6
    I'll Be Nearly 60 When My Kids Graduate High School
    This is the one that gets me the most. My own mother isn't even 60 yet! And she already has two grandchildren. When I'm 60, I'll have recently celebrated my first child's high school graduation. I need to face it: I am going to be an old mom.
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  • I Still Don’t Know What I Want to be When I Grow Up 6 of 6
    I Still Don't Know What I Want to be When I Grow Up
    This is me as a kid. In three days, I turn 35. And I still have no idea what I want to do with my life. Sure, I've got a good job two, actually and I feel very blessed to be able to be a paid writer for both of them (especially since you always hear, "You can't ever make a living as a writer."), but I still feel like there's more for me out there. What I do know for sure, though, is that I want to be a mother.

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