High-Risk Pregnancy: Why Me?

Source: Kelly Whitehead

Understanding and Managing a Potential Preterm Pregnancy

Every year, 1 million U.S. women with high-risk pregnancies are placed on bed rest to protect their developing babies. Despite that, every year about 500,000 newborns one of every eight arrive too early, according to the Center for Disease Control. Well, for my last 4 pregnancies, I have been one of those women. Not to mention my youngest, Sadie, arrived at 34 weeks, and it was one of the most difficult things I have gone through as she spent almost 4 weeks in the NICU. You can read more about it here. After being on bed rest from 20 weeks on with all of my pregnancies, I had no idea she would arrive that much earlier. Each pregnancy just gets shorter for me – 39, 36, 35, and 34 weeks. And now, with this being my last pregnancy, I will be starting weekly Progesterone shots at 16 weeks. I want to do anything to keep this baby cooking.

Enduring a high-risk pregnancy can be an overwhelming experience of stress, fear and unknowns, leading more to questions than answers. Many of these moms adhere to strict regimes of bed rest, face major changes in lifestyle and relationships, and are subject to dozens of doctor visits and even surgery or medications to protect their unborn children. For them, birth may not be the joy-filled event most families expect.

my sweet sadie bug

Knowing those feelings all too well, research scientist Kelly Whitehead wrote High-Risk Pregnancy: Why Me? Understanding and Managing a Potential Preterm Pregnancy (, which is backed by fetal and maternal medicine specialist Dr. Vincenzo Berghella, a top pre-term birth researcher. Whitehead’s first child died following his premature birth. During her next pregnancy, she spent 4½ months in bed worrying over and trying to protect her daughter.

The book is both a medical reference and emotional support for mothers-to-be, with Whitehead providing answers in layman’s terms to the myriad medical questions families have. Whitehead also shares coping strategies she discovered, along with what she’s learned through benefit of hindsight and insights from other mothers.

• Try to enjoy being pregnant. Don’t miss out on this experience because you’re high-risk. Do the normal prego things, even if you have to modify them: Shop online, get a belly cast, shoot expanding-belly photos, and savor those kicks and body changes. Don’t forget or stop dreaming about the actual birth and your desires for what it will be like.I regretted missing out on so much while carrying my daughter. Rather than enjoying the pregnancy, I kept focused on the end and my hope she would survive.

• Don’t let your emotions become your enemy. Say goodbye to guilt this is not your fault! It’s okay to be bitter, angry and upset at the world, and to hate “normal” pregnant women, but it isn’t going to change anything. So go get mad, yell, and cry, and then move on.

• Educate yourself about your situation. Don’t go reading about every other possible scenario out there; you don’t need to worry about problems that aren’t a likely issue for you.

“I know it’s tough to be going through a high-risk pregnancy and living in fear every day,” Whitehead says. “Though this will be the toughest time of your life, many of us have been through it and now have our children. You can, too.

“Keep your chin up and keep hoping. Healthy babies are born every day to families who’ve walked the same path.”

Pick up Kelly’s book now to get more great tips on how to survice a high-risk pregnancy.

About Kelly Whitehead

Kelly Whitehead is a scientist-mom, who lost a preemie son and went on to have two high-risk pregnancies. She wrote High-Risk Pregnancy: Why Me? Understanding and Managing a Potential Preterm Pregnancy as an educational tool and emotional guide for those experiencing a difficult pregnancy and the providers who work with them. She is also a trained doula, birth advocate and spokesperson for Sidelines National High Risk Pregnancy Support Network. For more information, check out

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