Infant Loss And A Reminder To Be ThankfulCasi Densmore-Koon
It’s hard to believe that a life can be taken from you so fast. And in this case, two lives. This post is dedicated to those who have lost a child, who are expecting a child, and who may just need a little pick me up after a rough day. This one is for you.
Today is a day of grief for many of those around me. You’ll see why as you read on.
Infant loss is one of those things that I just can’t imagine. I never know what to say to someone who has lost a child. How do you tell them to keep the faith when an innocent child was taken from them? But somehow, you do. Today, I am believing in the hope and faith that gets a mother through the loss of their child.
As I wrote this post, I think of so many. Devan, who has 12 miscarriages. Kristine, who lost her daughter Cora after 5 days. Diana, who lost her twin boys at 18 weeks. And now I add someone from my family, Dana, who lost her twin girls today after 13 days in the NICU. You may recall reading about Hope + Faith here. This again is a reminder of why you should never take a pregnancy for granted. While my heart is beyond heavy today, it made me remember a few things.
- If you have the worst morning sickness ever. Be thankful. Think of those who may be trying to get pregnant and can’t.
- If you can’t sleep because you just can’t get comfortable. This is a reminder that a little someone just needs to be a little bit more comfortable inside the womb. You will eventually sleep again.
- When you get up to pee 10 times in 10 minutes. This should be a reminder that a little peanut is keeping your bladder nice and cozy and is most likely using it as pillow. I promise, you will one day not have to get up a million times to use the bathroom.
- As you step on the scale, and you’ve gained more weight than you wanted to just remember, you are working on those child bearing hips and it is for a good cause.
Infant loss and those going through it, once again reminds me to be thankful. Thankful for my 4 Littles. Thankful for getting pregnant, even though it wasn’t exactly planned. Thankful for my pregnancy. Thankful for the morning sickness. Thankful for the indigestion. Thankful for everything. Infant loss put things in perspective. It reminds you to remember the little things in life, hug your Littles tighter and count your blessings twice. You have to remember one thing, at the end of the day, ask yourself, “What if God woke you up with only the things that you thanked him for yesterday?” Well tonight, I am thanking Him for getting me this far in my pregnancy and for everything I have to be thankful for on this day and always. And of course, I am praying for anyone who has dealt with the loss of their child.