Keeping Baby's Name A SecretMonica Bielanko
Once we decided on names for both of my children I swore my husband to secrecy. I knew better than to tell anyone the names we had picked.
Because, oh my God, my mom makes me want to pull my hair out! She had a response to each name I’d throw out.
Mom: Ooooh, no. I knew a girl in third grade who picked her nose and ate it and her name was Madeleine.
Mom: What? Are you serious? That’s a ridiculous name. Oh my darlin’, oh my darlin’, OH MY DARLIN’ CLEMENTINE…”
You get the point. And my point is that I don’t need anyone’s two cents tainting the name I want to give my child. The way I see it, once the kid has the name you announce it to the world and people who don’t like it can suck it and swallow their opinions because it’s already the name.
Your friends and relatives feel comfortable talking smack about names you love because the child isn’t named that yet. But announce the name after baby is born and the birth certificate is dry and well, any dissenters are just rude. Even your stupid great aunt Clara should know that.
Being Pregnant writer Meredith Carroll has experienced the same name-sharing issues as me. In her hilarious new article, Keeping The Baby Name A Secret: 10 Reasons I Won’t Share The Name Before Birth, Meredith highlights several scenarios I bumped up against when choosing names for our daughter and son. For example, have you ever had someone tell you the name you like is the name of their dog? As Meredith says, “What do you expect you’ll gain from telling me, and what do you suppose I’ll gain from knowing it? Would this be the appropriate time for me to let you know that the nickname for the mole on my shin rhymes with your name?”
Ha to the ha ha! Exactly.
I don’t want to steal Meredith’s thunder, you should definitely check out all her reasons for keeping baby’s name a secret, but another of her reasons involves name thieves. “It’s not that I think you’ll steal my unborn daughter’s name, but I’d rather my daughter isn’t one of many, many girls in her class with the same moniker.”
Ain’t that the truth? One of the main reasons I named my daughter Violet is it seemed uncommon yet traditional.
Finally, for me and my husband it just seemed like bad juju to be calling the baby by its name before it was born. For some reason, it just felt right to us to wait until baby was born to make the official declaration and begin using the name. But hey, that’s just us. So what about you? Are you telling people the name you’ve picked or do you keep it top secret like Meredith and I like to do?