Mother’s Day is an occasion for joyful celebration—a time when friends and family pay tribute to the moms in their lives. Whether it’s a heartfelt “thank you” or a much appreciated breakfast in bed, some sort of acknowledgement of mothers is expected to take part on this day. Yet the holiday often passes without recognition of moms-to-be and their special role—the growing and nurturing of our world’s unborn children—on Mother’s Day.
Don’t Forget the Mom-to-Be
Because pregnant women are often not thought of as true blue mothers yet, you may not have considered celebrating their efforts to give birth to healthy children by including them on Mother’s Day. Yet what many people fail to realize, according to Ann Douglas, author of The Mother of All Pregnancy Books: The Ultimate Guide to Conception, Birth, and Everything In Between, is that many mothers-to-be “have very maternal feelings toward their babies from the moment the pregnancy test comes back positive.” We know that most moms-to-be take special care of themselves during pregnancy, often making significant lifestyle changes or sacrifices for their unborn little ones. Why not show a mom-to-be that you appreciate all she is doing for her child by honoring her during this special holiday?
Making Moms-to-Be Feel Special
Husbands in particular—heed this advice! If your wife is expecting this Mother’s Day, be sure to do something extra special for her that not only shows you appreciate her as a person, but that you recognize her as a mother, even though the baby hasn’t made his or her arrival just yet.
Though the following tips are geared toward dads-to-be, they can be adapted for use by anyone to make the pregnant women in your life really feel a part of the festivities. Be imaginative and have fun in whatever you decide to do for the mom-to-be. She’ll certainly appreciate your thoughtfulness in remembering her expectant state on this spring holiday.
Announce Her Mommy Status: Get creative this Mother’s Day and have a button or T-shirt printed up that tells the world your loved one is a mommy-in-waiting. Local silk screening companies or websites offer these services, and the messages can be entirely customized. Try slogans like, “Baby on Board,” or “Bun in the Oven.” The more clever (or sweet!) you are, the more brownie points you’ll get from Mommy, too!
Mom-Only Outing: Gather up your wife and her friends—or how about your wife and her mom!—and take them out to lunch. What mom or fatigued pregnant woman won’t enjoy being treated to a reprieve from kitchen duty?
Breakfast in Bed: This is a traditional Mother’s Day affair, but one that any woman is sure to love. Treat your expecting loved one to a morning of relaxation in bed by fixing her favorite meal. Be sure to prepare food that suits her current trimester, says Christine Louise Hohlbaum, author of Sahm I Am: Tales of a Stay-at-Home Mom in Europe. “Depending on how far along she is, [the meal] might be a light breakfast of Saltines and ginger ale or a hearty three-course meal with pancakes, eggs, sausage, and more!” says Hohlbaum.
Remembering the Moment: Make Mother’s Day extra special for your lovely mother-to-be by taking her to get a belly cast—a very tangible record of just what her tummy looked like on her very first Mother’s Day. If the expecting mama isn’t showing much yet, you may consider setting up an appointment for a professional photography session. A tastefully captured photo will highlight her newly formed curves.
A Massage and More: A fantastic way to care for your pregnant sweetheart is by treating her to a day at the spa. Special pampering will nurture her emotional and physical needs. If you don’t have a spa in your area that specializes in prenatal massage, your loved one will still relish being treated to a manicure, pedicure, and fresh haircut. OR treat her to an extra-special, at-home massage from you! If a “day out” is out of reach financially, turn your home into a spa and pamper mom-to-be until she’s a pile of mush!
Encourage Her to Feel Included: Doing appreciative things for the mommy-to-be is great, but doesn’t have a lot of impact if she doesn’t recognize her own significance on Mother’s Day. Help her set the day as something truly special “by nurturing herself mind, body, and soul,” says Douglas. What does this mean exactly? Encourage her to let go and celebrate! Mother’s Day is a day meant for her—an expectant mother—and all other mothers in the world. Once she knows this, her very first Mother’s Day is bound to be an exciting and memorable one as you both make the journey into parenthood.
Above all else, remember to make your pregnant loved one the center of attention. This isn’t a day to give her baby clothes or the like—instead, treat her to something she enjoys or just let her know you love her. Don’t forget to invite her closest friends and family along for her very first Mother’s Day as an expecting mom. “It’s nice to have others join you in celebrating that rite of passage,” says Douglas. And that’s exactly what she should do—celebrate! Mother’s Day is her day after all.