Sex during pregnancy — orgasms, positions, and if the baby can feel itJillian Capewell
When you got pregnant, you probably expected your whole life to change. Well, not everything has to. If you were having great sex before those little blue lines popped up on your pregnancy test, there’s no reason to stop now.
Will the baby, you know, feel it?
Fear not – the motions of intercourse won’t traumatize the baby or cause your water to break. The amniotic sac, along with the uterine muscles cradling your developing baby, will keep the baby from feeling anything. If you notice a little extra kicking post-orgasm, this is most likely because of increased circulation, which can make your baby start moving more.
How will my partner feel?
Many find that the changes to their pregnant partner’s body are sexy and intriguing. However, others could feel uncomfortable about the change in your body shape. Fluctuating feelings of self-consciousness may cool your partner off for a little. Talk about your feelings and try new things with your partner to strengthen your bond during this strange and wonderful time.
Flex your creative muscles
With your changing body, it may take a few tries to find the most comfortable position for you – and this is one activity where it’s not so bad to try and try again. Many women find that if intercourse is too clumsy or uncomfortable, oral sex or mutual masturbation are pleasurable alternatives.
Here are some positions that are just right for accommodating that baby bump:
- On top of your partner. This way, you can control the depth of penetration, and there’s no added weight on your abdomen. To switch it up, try this while facing away from him as he supports your abdomen.
- Find a new way to enjoy your favorite sturdy chair – sit on your partner’s lap while he’s sitting down. Again, you’ll find this position puts no extra weight on the uterus and allows you to control the depth of penetration.
- Try a little low-key spooning. Lie side by side with your partner and let him enter you from behind, allowing for shallow penetration without putting stress on your midsection. Many pregnant women find this a relaxing position, especially during the later stages of pregnancy.
These positions may need slight adjustments before you feel comfortable or are able to reach orgasm. Listen to your body – if something hurts, stop and try something else.
Don’t be afraid of having orgasms with these positions – they will not harm your baby in any way. You may feel more orgasmic than before your pregnancy, or able to experience multiple orgasms for the first time. The uterine contractions that typically occur during orgasm may feel heightened, due to your uterus’ increased size.
Though sex during pregnancy is typically given the green light by health-care professionals, in the case of a high-risk pregnancy, proceed with caution. Your doctor may advise against sex during pregnancy in the following situations:
- If you or your partner has a sexually transmitted infection
- If you have placenta previa, or a low-lying placenta that covers all or part of the cervix
- You’re experiencing unexplained bleeding or discharge
Your libido can fluctuate throughout your pregnancy – lessening during the first trimester when you feel nauseous and tired, spiking during the second trimester when your estrogen levels are high, and waning as you become closer to your due date. If you feel up for it though, sex during pregnancy is perfectly safe (if intercourse is too tall an order, opt for cuddling and kissing your partner to maintain your bond).