If you read my bio over on the sidebar and if you have read some of my posts here on Babble you probably know that my pregnancy history has not exactly been stress-free. My husband and I have been through a lot of loss and a lot of pain.
Within a span of 6 years we had been though 10 miscarriages (though I personally consider one [Triton] a stillbirth) and the effects of so much loss are still with me today.
It took a while to figure out why my body was not holding on to the pregnancies and it wasn’t until my son Triton passed away at 14 weeks gestation that we got our answer and the full story of what was going on.
Before my husband and I were married I was having a lot of complications with ovarian cysts. I had a few surgeries to remove the cysts so it was known that it might be difficult to get pregnant because of some left over scar tissue. Turns out that getting pregnant was never really an issue with us – but holding on to them past the first trimester was tricky.
After my 3rd recurrent miscarriage I was diagnosed with a luteal phase defect and progesterone deficiency and with treatment I went on to have a successful full-term pregnancy. We were hopeful that for our next child we would not have to go through anymore loss.
We were wrong.
We went on to have two more early miscarriages while trying to conceive another full-term healthy child. These miscarriages were attributed to not starting the treatment soon enough for the luteal phase defect and progesterone deficiency. We corrected that and went on to have another full-term pregnancy.
We had three more early miscarriages after a complicated second full-term pregnancy and we realized that perhaps the full picture was not being shown for my multiple miscarriages and why it was happening so much.
I became pregnant again after 3 recurrent miscarriages (8th loss in total) and everything seemed to be going okay. I had passed the 8th week where all my other losses had occurred and we were hopeful again. This was Triton’s pregnancy which ended at 14 weeks gestation – he had passed away. During his ‘birth‘ and the pathology it was discovered he had a clot in his umbilical cord. Upon further investigation in my medical history it was rediscovered that I had Factor V Leiden – a clotting disorder which predisposes me to developing blood clots – which was the cause of Triton’s death. We had another very early loss after Triton taking our pain to 10 losses.
Our youngest child was carried safely to full term thanks to daily injections to ward off any clots and if we have any more children we will have to use the injections again for the duration of pregnancy and the postpartum period.
Our history weighs heavily in our decision to add more children but I don’t want it to define our decision.
To read a more detailed story of our miscarriages, multiple diagnosis and treatment – click here
To read my follow up post addressing some of the comments- read : Why We Consider our ‘Medically Categorized’ Miscarriage a ‘Stillbirth’
Miscarriages and expectant fathers: How a woman’s pregnancy loss affects men