When my husband and I were ready to start trying to conceive our first child, I decided I needed to find a new gynecologist to give me a pre-conception check-up. A friend recommended a doctor who was Harvard educated, Jewish and gay. I wasn’t sure if I wanted him to be my doctor or my best friend with those credentials. He was a lovely man who specialized in fertility and was more than happy to sit with me and answer all my questions about getting knocked up for the first time. I expressed a number of concerns about my age, how long I’d been on the Pill, and various other anxieties. When I referenced some books I’d read, he told me to stop reading. “You don’t need books! You need a penis and a vagina. You know the best way to get pregnant? You schtup!”
Yep. Totally wanted him as my best friend.
Oh, and “shtup” is Yiddish for having sex.
Dr. Sctup-A-Lot’s admonishments about books aside, I did not stop reading, even when we did begin the schtupping part of getting pregnant (which worked, like a charm, by the way). I had a stack of books about fertility, fertility and diet, fertility and health, and memoirs of women trying, with varying degrees of success, to get pregnant. I probably would have LOVED The Impatient Woman’s Guide to Getting Pregnant by Jean M. Twenge PhD.
This book sounds awesome: like all the fertility books I ever read summarized by my smartest girlfriend. I read a sample after seeing the review and it was great. Conversational and smart, it talks about the emotions as well as the plumbing of getting pregnant. (I didn’t want to buy the whole book because, well, I’m already pregnant and not likely do this again.)
So, if you’re a woman like me who couldn’t just take the advice to go schtup at face value – even from a Harvard educated doctor – and needs a library of books and websites to consult during the sometimes harrowing process of trying to conceive, this book looks like a great addition to the stack on your bedside table!
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