I am married to a mama’s boy.
But, I will rush to hastily assure you (especially in the off-chance that my mother-in-law is reading this…hi!) that I don’t think being a mama’s boy is necessarily a bad thing. In fact, part of me hopes that my own son will be a mama’s boy when he grows up. I happen to think that mama’s boys are some of the most devoted partners later on in life, plus they’re sweet, kind, and thoughtful.
But then again, there are times when a mama’s boy might not be what you’re looking for…
Signs Your Man Is A Mama’s Boy
As YourTango points out, there are a few dead giveaway signs that your man is a mama’s boy, like…
He Compares Your Cooking
Does your chicken noodle soup really taste that different from the way mom used to make it? Or does your man’s obsession with pointing out the way his mom makes the noodles from scratch point out a deeper meaning? I have to be honest, to this day my husband prefers his mother’s chocolate chip cookies to mine–she makes hers flat, I prefer to make them thick–and I just know it’s not really about the cookie. It’s those loving memories he associates with growing up and coming home to the perfect cookie.
She Does His Laundry
I don’t care how much we all love our sons–if he’s grown, he needs to learn how to do his own laundry! At least not for his sake, but for the sake of the future women in his life. Tide, anyone?
They Talk Every Day
Does your man feel obligated to check in with his mother every day? Does she call to see how his day was every night? Wish him a good morning? If your son talks to his mother every single day, he may be a mama’s boy.
He Acts Like A Little Boy In Front Of Her
Ever notice how your man seems to act a little…well, different in front of his mother? It’s almost like you can see the little boy in him, pumping high on the swing and yelling, “Mom! Look at me!”
He Takes Her Side
When given the choice, does he always side with his mother? “Come on, honey, she’s my Mom!”
She Shows Up Unexpectedly
I mean, unless you’ve got an Everybody Loves Raymond thing going on and live right next door to the woman, don’t you think it’s a bit odd for her to show up unannounced all of the time? It’s not that you don’t love her too, or want her as part of your life, it’s just that her disregard for your lives and your schedules may show that, in her mind, she’s still #1 to her son.
He’s Got A Guilt Complex
Because their happiness is so wrapped up in their son’s, mothers of mama’s boys tend to put a lot of pressure on their sons to keep them happy. Mama’s boys tend to be trained, from a young age, to feel guilty for not making their mamas happy and that sense of guilt can carry with them through life, rendering them incapable of making a decision, second-guessing, and unsure of themselves.
He Lives With Her
Doesn’t really get much more clear than that, folks. Granted, there are a lot of second-stage adults moving back home as they look for jobs, and that is understandable. But if there is also a considerable amount of action figures involved, you may want to think twice…
He Treats You Like A Queen
I still maintain that mama’s boys, for the most part, can make the best partners. They know how to treat a woman with kindness and respect, because they learned from the best. And if you’ll excuse me, I do believe my son needs me to cook him some breakfast…