A few years back, I wrote an article called “25 Things Your Wife Will Love to Hear You Say.” Apparently this is a common concern for many husbands out there, because the post has been one of my most popular works to date.
You might be saying, “What does a man know about what a woman wants to hear?” The truth is, he doesn’t know much until he asks. When I started writing that article, I asked my wife which words she loves to hear me say. See what I did there? Instead of trying to guess, or read her mind, I simply asked her.
So, I decided to take the same approach and asked a few men what they loved to hear from their partners … and I’m willing to bet your husband would agree with a lot of the things on my list.
Here are 10 things every man wants to hear from his wife:
1. “Your hard work is paying off for our family.”
This is high on the list for men. We want to know what we are doing is not only helpful to our family, but that the most important woman in our life recognizes and appreciates this. It’s a welcome compliment whether it’s directed toward the work that provides for our families or chores we do to help out around the house.
2. “I need you.”
Those knight in shining armor stories are rooted in something very important to men. We want to know we are needed. Slaying the dragon and rescuing the princess are real to us. It may not be precisely as the fairy tales depict it, but the principle rings true. We want to feel useful, and we want you to know that you can turn to us when you want help, although you are totally capable of doing it on your own.
3. “I trust you.”
Men want women to feel secure in their marriage, and know that they can trust their husband. We all know that trust helps create a solid foundation for a good relationship. Sometimes men aren’t depicted as trustworthy, so for a man to hear that his wife has faith in him means the world.
4. “I’m cooking your favorite meal tonight.”
What’s the fastest way to a man’s heart? His stomach! You probably said that aloud before even reading the answer. Men love good food, and they love when their wives cook it from the heart. So hearing your wife say she’s preparing your favorite meal is music to a man’s ears … and stomach!
5. “I love this man!”
Whether you say it directly to him or to someone else in reference to him, you have made him feel very special and warmed his heart. It’s fun to be bragged about by your spouse, and men enjoy it just as much as women do.
6. “I’m sorry, I was wrong.”
Men make mistakes, and women make mistakes too. A good man will take responsibility for his errors, but he also appreciates it when you take that initiative and apologize for yours.
7. “You’re so handsome/sexy.”
Pursue your man! Pursue him with words and especially with actions. He will absolutely love to hear you pay him some compliments. Everyone wants to be found attractive by their spouse. This is obvious, but not everybody remembers to say it. You actually need to say it. When you say it to your man, he knows you find him attractive, inside and out.
8. “You’re a great father!”
Once men hear the words, “it’s a boy/ girl!” the paternal instinct kicks in. From that moment forward, the only thing we, as fathers, want is to lead our families and make our children proud. It isn’t always easy, but those four words, “You’re a great father,” will provide the motivation to push through the overwhelming times.
9. “You’re so smart.”
Too often, men on TV are portrayed as dumb jocks, the butt of family jokes, and even the buffoon. But that stereotype is just not true. Letting your man know you value his ideas and opinions is something he’ll always appreciate.
10. “I’m putting the kids to bed early tonight …”
Well, that means one of two things. He’s about to get to watch the game or his favorite action flick without distractions, or you and him are about to … either way, he loves to hear that!More On