While I strive to come from a place of gratitude beyond November, in recent weeks I’ve been making even more of an effort not just to have it — but also to express it.
And in my expression of gratitude, particularly with regards to my husband, I’m looking at the various things that my husband does a bit more carefully. I have come to see that it is the little things that he does that make the biggest impact on me — the things that he doesn’t necessarily have to do but does in an effort to please me. And while I may forget in the heat of the moment as laundry spills out from an already full basket, or when he forgets the one thing I wanted from the grocery store, at the end of the day I know that my husband wants nothing more than the best for me. He genuinely wants me to be happy and is willing to do what he can to contribute to my happiness. Of course I understand that it’s not his responsibility but even so, I am quite grateful for the little (and BIG!) things my husband does each day.
Most of all, I am grateful for his presence in my life. Here are 18 reasons I am grateful for the gift of companionship.
1. Someone to ask: How do I look?
I am always asking my husband how I look. Does my hair look ok like this? Do you think this dress fits me ok? Sometimes I just need a second opinion, and I know I can go to my husband for one.
2. Someone to confide in
There are times you just need to vent, and while it is great having girlfriends to talk to there is something wonderful about being able to vent to your husband. Sometimes there are things that I am not quite ready to share or talk to anyone else about, and I take them to my husband. He allows me to let it out and over time he has come to see that sometimes I am not looking for advice and instead just someone who is willing to listen. I’m thankful he’s that person.
3. Someone to be silly with
I love being silly. At home is where I show off my lack of rhythm and relish in my comedic (or lack of) side. And although it seems our 9-year-old appreciates my humor more than my husband, occasionally I get a laugh out of him. But more importantly, I get to feel comfortable being me. The weird, quirky and nerdy me.
4. Someone who will do just about anything to see his girls’ smile
My husband dressed up as a nerd because our daughter wanted us to match for Halloween/Harvest. And he was one handsome nerd if I do say so. There are lots of things that we love to do that he doesn’t or things that he never would have done before life as a husband and father. But my husband loves seeing us smile and making us laugh even if it means he’s not quite as “cool” in everyone else’s eyes.
5. Someone to cuddle with
I am a cuddler and, while my husband isn’t that big on cuddling, he will happily scoot over to my side of the bed if I wake him up with a cuddle request. There is something comforting about being in his arms. He is my safe place, and I am grateful for that.
6. An extra set of hands
My life as a single mother looked very different than my life now. While my mom helped me as much as she could it wasn’t the same as having a partner. I can’t tell you how many times I have called my husband to come help me with the groceries or bring me a towel out of the linen closet because I forgot one (and am subsequently standing in the shower freezing!). He is so hands on, helping with the dishes, cooking, reading bedtime stories and helping with the little things that pop up throughout the week.
7. A different perspective
Sometimes the fact that we feel so differently makes me want to pull my hair out. Other times it causes me to be thankful. Oftentimes my husband helps me think about things and see things differently than I might have. There are times when I have needed a voice of reason or someone to help me weigh out the pros and cons of a situation and that’s when he steps in.
8. A bug squasher
Yes, it annoys him when I wake him up asking him to kill the spider on the wall that won’t stop staring at me but he does it. Every time. (Spiders beware!)
9. A warm house in the morning
My husband gets up before any of us and now that the mornings are crisp and cool he makes sure he turns on the heater to warm the house up a bit. That means my body doesn’t go in shock as soon as I crawl out from under the covers.
10. More options at a restaurant
When we go out to eat I always ask my husband what he’s eating and then I make sure to order something completely different. Why? So I can try what he’s having and still get what I want. I’m so indecisive when it comes to picking something to eat.
11. Someone to stand with me
My husband has my back. He’s shown me that over and over again. I am grateful to have someone who not only will go to bat for me but also will stand with me so that I don’t have to stand alone. And on the days when I struggle to stand he will hold me up. He reminds me that it’s what we do. And he’s right. No matter what we are there for each other.
12. Someone who doesn’t squirm, give up or waiver easily
My husband has been through a lot with me. He’s watched me bellow over in the emergency room experiencing a pain greater than childbirth. He’s been there before and after surgeries. He’s held my hand through childbirth and fallen victim to my morning breath. He’s seen some things that will make most people squirm, me included, but he’s been there unwavering. He’s always ready to help, support and see me through. The same can be said for the challenges that I have had with regards to various family issues and my history of depression. No matter what has happened, he has focused on the good and reminded me that we could get through this. And so far, we always have.
13. Someone who prays for and with me
I am grateful that my husband not only prays for me and on behalf of our family but he prays with me too.
14. Someone to rejoice with
It is a blessing to have someone that will be there for you through the hard times. We all know that speaks volumes about the person you are with. But it is also a blessing to have someone who you can rejoice with. Who you can celebrate all the wonderful things that life presents you with.
15. Someone who always keeps it real
I can be sensitive at times which means it isn’t always easy to say things to me. However, it is really important to my husband and I that we are honest about our thoughts and feelings. My husband doesn’t sugarcoat things (and yes at times I wish he did). With him, I know what you see and say is what you get.
16. Someone who gets me
My husband has made an effort to really understand me better. While I can’t expect him to be a mind-reader he can tell when I’m having a hard day, am annoyed or when I just need a minute. He knows when it is probably best to steer clear (of me) until I can get my stuff together. I’m working on being more vocal about my own needs and not making mountains out of molehills, but I am thankful to be with someone who doesn’t expect me to always have it together all of the time.
17. Someone who accepts me
Not only does my husband “get me” (most of the time anyway) but he accepts me for who I am. He knows I’m far from perfect and yet he adores me. And the crazy thing about it is, the fact that he loves me in spite of myself inspires me to continue to work on myself. I want my husband to be proud that I am the woman he chose to spend his life with. In loving me for who I am I am even more motivated to be the best ME I can be.
18. Someone to grow old with
I am so thankful that I will spend the rest of my life by his side. I am honored to be his wife.
These are just 18 of the reasons I’m thankful for the gift of companionship. Yes there are more but the common thread that ties each of my reasons together is him. There is no one quite like my Mr. and all of these things (reasons) mean a lot to me because HE means a lot to me. A whole lot. What are some reasons you are thankful for the gift of companionship?
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