If I had to pick one relationship deal breaker, it would be infidelity. It’s not something I have had to deal with in any relationship, and as far as I am concerned, I would never like to be in the middle of this situation.
I have my own feelings about what would cause a breakdown enough for someone to look outside their relationship. Like I said, I don’t have any personal experience so really my thoughts may or may not be the truth about infidelity, and I have a feeling there are a lot of myths surrounding infidelity — and I was right.
In a great article written by Scott Haltzman for YourTango, he debunks 10 common myths when it comes to infidelity and spills the truth behind some of those common myths. A few of them surprised me and I’ve highlighted the 5 that I found most surprising.
5 Truths Behind Common Infidelity Myths 1 of 6
There seems to be a lot of myths surrounding why someone would cheat on their partner. These are the 5 truths to common myths I found to be most surprising.
People Cheat With Someone Younger or More Attractive 2 of 6
That would be the first place my mind goes if infidelity came into my marriage, but according to Scott Haltzman, that's just not true. When I think about it, it kind of makes sense, too. We hear of celebrities who have cheated on their partners (Tiger Woods comes to my mind), and the person they had their affair with are not always richer, prettier or sexier than their current partner.
Infidelity Means There’s Something Wrong With a Marriage 3 of 6
I would probably put some blame on myself if my husband went outside the marriage and think there was something seriously wrong that I just maybe didn't notice. According to the article on YourTango, that's not always the case. It's true that marriage is hard work and every marriage has some hills to climb. Scott says that those that turn to infidelity aren't the only ones that have problems, but are maybe the couples who haven't figured out the best way to communicate and solve their issues.
Affairs Always End a Marriage 4 of 6
I already stated that infidelity would be a deal-breaker in my marriage, but the truth is, I can't really say for sure since it's never (and hopefully won't ever) happen in my marriage. According to YourTango, more than 50% of marriages can survive infidelity which is a lot more than I ever thought.
People Who Cheat Are Unhappy 5 of 6
The result of a survey reported on YourTango about adultery were really interesting. The survey asked adulterers if they wanted to leave their marriages, and most who answered the survey said no. In fact, those who had an affair, 56% of men and 34% of woman rank their marriages as happy or very happy.
It’s All About Sex 6 of 6
If sex was the reason for an affair, I'm not sure if that would be easier to handle or not, but according to the article on YourTango, most affairs arise from an emotional connection, not just a physical one. In fact, they go on to say that sex was never the initial intention.
For more common infidelity myths, debunked — check out 10 Common Myths About Infidelity Debunked! on YourTango
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