The fire in a relationship can fizzle within months and definitely within years. We get wrapped up in routines and don’t find the time to do anything extra to please our men. Whether it is sticking with the same position or scheduling love making, sex can become boring. So, how do we find the time and energy to be superwomen and drive him wild after many years?
We have to get creative, ladies. We have to surprise them and keep them on their toes. As my mother often says, a woman must keep a little mystery in her romantic relationships or marriage. As my cousin often says, a woman must be a lady in the streets and a…you know the rest.
But, let’s take it a step further. Let’s keep our womanly ways and le ne sais quoi and add spark, imagination and adventure.
How do we do that? I asked some men, did some research, and discovered some great tips. Here are eight ways to drive him wild in the bedroom (according to men).
1. Pick Up An Accent
Men love Sofia Vergara and not only for her curves. In an Ask Men list of turn ons, men confessed that they love women with accents. You can pick up a temporary one. Will you be Svetlana for a night or Conchita? You can’t lose!
2. Afternoon Delight
Help your love bloom in the middle of the afternoon! Surprise him and do the deed in the middle of the day. He won’t expect it, and what’s sexier than a spontaneous romp? Tuck the kids away for a nap. Instead of picking up their toys, pick up your man.
3. Role Play
Ever wanted to be a cop and cuff him? How about a French maid? Well, why not role play with your man? It is an imaginative way to spice things up. It doesn’t even have to be extravagant. Before bed, pretend to be another woman before doing the deed. You can even add that accent we discussed. He may be confused at first but he’ll be on board as soon as you play the part.
4. Places Other Than The Bedroom
Some women are very adventurous and get fresh with their mate out in the open. Whether it is a fire escape, a closet or in the bathroom, I know married women with children who please their men simply by leaving their bed.
5. Really Cater To Him
They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, and that goes the same when you want to satisfy him sexually. I asked men what arouses them and many said they want to be pampered from time to time. A back massage, their favorite meal, a foot rub: men want to be seduced just like women.
6. Matching Undies
Wearing pretty underwear is a nice touch that your man will note – even if your bra won’t stay on for long. Still, it shows him that you pay attention to detail. That you want to look good underneath your clothes all the time. I love matching underwear and wear it just for myself. It’s an added bonus that men enjoy it as well.
7. A Little Phone Play
Sexting is not just for teens. As married adults, you can also pick up your cell and text your husband some dirty talk. And it is so easy and accessible. You can sext just about anywhere. With just a quick tap on your keyboard, you can get your man geared up to play later. If you want to send him scantily clad pictures, check out the phone app Snapchat, where you snap a pic and send it to whomever you like. The app doesn’t store the picture on your camera roll and it cannot be saved by another phone as well. Safety is sexy!
8. All About His Parts
You can simply drive your man wild by catering to his body. Every man has a sweet spot or two. Find his. Explore him. Get to nibbling and massaging to make him feel like he’s the sexy man you married.