Let’s face it, many of us are romantics and we can’t help but picture ourselves in a white dress after date number two. We picture what we’ll wear the first time we meet the parents. We imagine what our first apartment as a couple would will look like. And we’ll even have names for that future Yellow Labrador. It’s future planning at its best.
But then something unexpected happens. The relationship fizzles and all you’re left with is a non-stop stream of images of what your life could have been like together. Or worse, a playback film of everything you could have done differently while you two were still together.
In other words: you can’t get him off your mind post-break up. And all you’re thinking is: Make. It. Stop.
I have some good news. There is something you can do to make it stop. And it’s all about living in the present moment.
You see, well, if you’re thinking of him it’s because you’re not living in the moment. You’re escaping from what’s happening to you at this exact moment. For example, you’re at work creating a presentation and before you know it, you’re back at your first date together. What you need to do is catch yourself, realize what you’re doing, and bring yourself back to the present moment — which is your office, your work, and your presentation.
When thinking about him, you’re living in a time that doesn’t exist. You’re either living in the past or living in the future — neither of which exists. The only time that does exist is right now. And that’s where you need to live. If not, you’re literally letting your life just go by. You need to enjoy it and experience it. If you’re trying to escape it because you’re bored or unhappy, you need to address that. How can you change your current situation into a life you really love? Do you need to be more grateful? Do you need a career change? Do you need to be around more positive people?
When we escape our present moment, it usually means there’s something in our life that doesn’t make us happy and we need to get rid of it. Meaning, you may need to take an inventory of your present situation.
Looking to clear your mind of the relationship that didn’t work out? In a nutshell, here’s what you want to do: recognize what you’re thinking about, release the thought, and take your mind back to what is happening to you right now, in the present moment.
After all, right here, right now, is where the magic happens. Don’t miss it!