Relationships today are different — that’s one of the kindest and most politically correct words I can use for them. The make up is different, what qualifies as a relationship is different, and even the purpose of a relationship is different.
In some cases you don’t have to even meet the person in real life. I’m in a relationship with thousands of “friends” on Facebook and other social media channels. We are definitely living in different times.
One thing that is the same, though, is the desire to have a good relationship. Now what determines a good relationship varies from relationship to relationship and person to person. After all, technology’s impact on relationships is major — and I’m not just talking about social media.
Take, for example, the recent Oscar®-nominated film Her in which a man is in a relationship with a computer operating system. Years ago that would have been truly weird, but today it’s not too far-fetched. As I said, relationships today are different.
So with all of the differences in today’s relationships, how do you determine what is good and what is bad? How do you know if your relationship is worth it? How about you use an app? Yes, there is an app for that — an app that tells you if your relationship is good or bad. An app that tells you if your relationship is worth it.
While reading an article on the Huffington Post, I discovered an app called The Boyfriend Log. The app was designed to boil down the status of your relationship into color-coded days on a calendar that allow you to keep track of your day-to-day feelings about the special people in your life.
I hate to beat a dead horse, but like I said: Relationships today are different. Maybe this app is just for fun and entertainment, but based on what I read in the Huffington Post article, it seems the intent is more. I don’t know about you, but using an app to decide whether my relationship is worth it sounds about the same as having a relationship with Siri or another operating system. It’s all very different.
If you really want to know if your relationship is good, bad, or worth it, don’t rely on an app. Rely on yourself. Here are 4 relationship barometers to measure the status of your relationship:
- Is it full of love (in action)? I’m not talking about the feeling of “love,” but actual actions that show love. Think five love language type stuff.
- Are needs being met? If both people in the relationship are working toward meeting the needs of the other, then I’m willing to bet your relationship is more good than bad.
- Is it full of respect? Is there a healthy respect of one another in the relationship. If you have a hard time determining this, think “golden rule.” Are you treating him/her the way you’d want to be treated, and vice versa?
- Do you have honest communication? Not just communication or one-sided conversations, but a back and forth dialogue where you honestly express yourself.
So instead of grabbing an app to tell you if your relationship with another person is good, measure your relationship status by the four relationship barometers above. Or better yet, talk to them about it.
Would you rely on an app to determine your relationship status?