Love Story : Life Together After Sixty Years of Marriage (PHOTOS)

Marriage. It is one of the great and lofty mysteries of our time and of all the times before us.

Think about it: the romanticized idea of being true and sharing your life with one person for the rest of your years, the rest of your decades. On the surface, it seems the epitome of love and commitment, but in reality, as any married person can attest, it is a grand castle propped up on a mountain of challenges.

So, how do people make it work?

How do some couples, despite the odds seemingly stacked against them from the moment they each utter “I do!”, remain together for so very long?

As a married man myself, I often find myself wondering if there really is a secret to taking a love affair as far as it can possibly go in this world. Is there actually one magic sentence out there, one small but mighty bit of advice that could quietly tumble from the lips of some old man or woman somewhere and forever help guide my wife and me towards a life spent together forever instead of just for a decade or less, like so many other marriages seem to end up these days?

Well, I can’t really answer that one, but even though there isn’t much of a chance of stumbling upon some sort of mystical one-sentence regarding lasting marriage anytime soon, there are people out there who actually manage to capture the very essence of the notion through their art.

Marina Rosso, a 28 year-old photographer from Italy, is one of those people.

From 2009 to 2011, Marina spent time using her talented eye to document the lives of her grandparents, Licia and Ryan, who have been married for 57 years. And after almost six decades together, through the many ups and downs every union brings, Marina managed to capture something incredibly moving and powerful about the true meaning of marriage, I think.

As she explains on her website:

Licia and Ryan married
57 years ago
in a small town next to Udine, Italy.
They spent all their lives together
since now that
at the early age of 85,
things start to be more difficult
and the rhythms are slower.
All the days look like the others,
every movement is a repetitional loop.
But anyways,
this is what keeps them still alive:
the idea of being self sufficient
and to help each other.

In looking at her photographs, I was drawn in by her ability to bottle that subtle tenderness of the everyday life of a very old love affair.

The way I see it, we’re actually pretty lucky to have artists like Marina out there, helping us along by managing to whisper a few of those long lost secrets about love and marriage in our ear, without ever uttering a single word.

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    57 Years
    Love is something we tend to glorify and romanticize even when we know in our hearts that it's the everyday stuff that really defines our love affairs. .
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    A Comfortable Couple
    'Come, let's be a comfortable couple and take care of each other! How glad we shall be, that we have somebody we are fond of always, to talk to and sit with.' ~Charles Dickens
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    Living On Married Time
    Marriages get measured by years, and then decades. But really they are just a mountain of moments.
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    Little Stuff
    Long marriages are never perfect. Only a fool would think otherwise. But they survive and last because someone is always there when the other one needs them. For big stuff and for little stuff, too.
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    After All These Years
    'It's easy to understand love at first sight, but how do we explain love after two people have been looking at each other for years?' ~Author Unknown
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  • Spirit 7 of 15
    I'm guessing, of course, but part of the secret of being married for most of your life must be learning to keep your individual spirit alive even when you are part of a duo.
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  • Routine 8 of 15
    'Marriage must constantly fight against a monster which devours everything: routine.' ~Honore de Balzac
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    In Sickness and In Health
    As time marches on, our bodies challenge us more and more. But married people have each other to lean on, at least for a while.
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    Slow Growth
    'Love seems the swiftest but it is the slowest of all growths. No man or woman really knows what perfect love is until they have been married a quarter of a century.' ~Mark Twain
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    Time Alone
    Maybe the greatest nourishment we can ever give any long term union is time apart from it here and there. .
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    Just One Look
    'That quiet mutual gaze of a trusting husband and wife is like the first moment of rest or refuge from a great weariness or a great danger.' ~George Eliot .
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    In Love Again
    The longer you are with someone the better the chances that your really fall in love with them over and over and over again. for a thousand and one different reasons. .
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    Why We Worked
    'Newlyweds become oldyweds, and oldyweds are the reasons that families work.' ~Author Unknown .
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    Licia & Ryan
    Isn't it pretty damn amazing to think about love's potential? I'm really glad their granddaughter thought to take these powerful and inspiring photos. Grazie, Marina, for sharing them. .
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Images:  Marina Rosso

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