Superficial Turn-Offs: Should We Get Past Them?

Small HandsAs women, I believe we all have an image of our perfect man. From his smile to his swagger, we just know what we find attractive.

I am a fan of a man who has a raspy voice. My father’s voice is just like that, which leaves me to believe there is some truth to Freud’s theory: We seek qualities in a man that remind us of our father’s.

Hopefully, it’s only the superficial. My father wasn’t the best husband. I want to be with a man who respects me and is faithful and present. That’s not the kind of man my father was when he was married to my mother. Positive traits and aligning core values are what make a man and a relationship work. So I’m learning to be less judgmental and more open-minded. That means letting go of these superficial turn-offs:

Small Hands

A man that has small hands makes some women cringe. Call it a fear that it’s a reflection of another body part, or just a desire for “manly” hands, but it is silly when you think about it. As long as a man holds my hand, I won’t care how big or small they are.

Boyish Body Frame 

I don’t know about you all, but I love a man who is built like a man. And I’m not speaking about weight. I don’t need a man who is over 200 pounds. What I do find sexy is a man who is not as small in frame as I am. Have broad shoulders! Alas, it is a silly desire that we should overlook. A broad or muscular body frame doesn’t make a man.


I’m only 5’2″. However some of my female comrades are over 6 feel tall! I can’t imagine how difficult it is to find a man over 6 feet tall and with great qualities. So maybe height shouldn’t matter as much? Then again I am only 5’2″.

Girly Voice

This may be the hardest thing for me to overcome. A man’s voice doesn’t have to be raspy or deep. But it is difficult for me to find a man attractive when he sounds like David Beckham, or worse, Mike Tyson. I don’t want to feel like I am being seduced by a female! Alas, I vow to let this go if the man is the man of my dreams in every other way.

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