I’ve realized I may need to marry a Latino. I myself am Latina. My parents were born and raised in a small town in the Dominican Republic and I was born in New York City. But, last night, while jamming to salsa at the Marc Anthony concert in Los Angeles, I realized how important music is to me. It’s a part of my upbringing, my culture. It makes me who I am and I want a partner to share this with me.
Can a non-Latino feel the same way that I do about salsa, merengue and bachata? Will they love it and live it with as much passion?
Perhaps. But there is more to being Latino/a than music. I love the Spanish language; I speak it fluently. I love the food and the warmth of the Dominican culture. How we always get together and embrace and laugh and live life with gusto. How baby showers begin at 7pm and end at 2am, not begin at 2pm and end at 7pm. How we enjoy our downtime and aren’t obsessed with work. This is part of being Latino/a. These are things that I have missed when I’ve dated a non-Latino.
Many of my boyfriends have been Latino, but recently I promised myself to be more open. I have met great, fun, and interesting men since then. Most have been Caucasian. But there is a connection missing – one that I only feel with a Latino.
But I know what you’re thinking – marriage is more than one’s culture. I can marry a Puerto Rican, Dominican, or Mexican and that doesn’t mean it will last. Totally agree and get it. If I marry within my culture, it doesn’t mean my marriage will succeed. But I can’t help how I feel. I’ve been open to other cultures. I’ve dated all colors of the rainbow and one fact still remains: when I am with a Latino, I feel at home.
I am curious to learn how you feel. To women who have married outside their race, do you ever feel something is missing due to the differing cultures? Or is it minimal compared to the love and respect you have for one another?
Please enlighten me, as I do not want to miss out on love and marriage with a wonderful man just because he isn’t Latino.
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