SAHM vs. WAHM vs. WOHM: We All Want the Same Thing

By now you probably know I’ve become a WAHM. Whoa my gawd, this is hard.

I chronicled the first week of working from home here for your viewing err, pleasure:

It went from blissful on day 1…

To frustrated by day 4.

My fellow Toddler Times sistah, Danielle even got in on the WAHM vlogging action here.

I’m mom enough to admit how weirdly wonderful and difficult the transition to working at home has been. I knew working from home was going to be hard but I had no idea it was going to be this hard (or this awesome either). Don’t get me wrong, working outside the home was hard too – really, really hard.

I’ve been mom blogging for a couple of years now and of all the gazillion blog posts and countless books I’ve devoured on the subject, I can tell you: the WAHM/WOHM/SAHM wars are nothing more than the need to be acknowledged.

No one choice is more “right” or honorable than the next. They’re all flippin’ hard and all worthy of recognition.

Hey, I know no one forced me to have a baby or two. These were my choices and I own them and love them like we all do, but that doesn’t mean it’s always easy. I think it’s only natural sometimes to question your WAHM/WOHM/SAHM choices or wonder if the grass is greener. I know these doubts and feelings tickle my brain on the days when I feel like my work is never done and I focus on my parenting failures and I feel like no one understands. We all have those days sometimes.

If you told me your partner doesn’t understand how hard you work, I’d nod. If you told me your employer doesn’t understand how hard juggling motherhood and career can be, I’d double nod. If you told me your childless friends don’t understand why you no longer talk on the phone, I’d refer you to this post.

And so, to my fellow mamas out there, I say this:

WOHM’s: Big fat hug to you. Been there. So hard. You need a vacation.

WAHM’s: Big fat hug to you. Been there for 13 days now. So hard. We need a vacation.

SAHM’s: Big fat hug to you. Who are we kidding? You’re a WAHM too. So hard. You need a vacation.

Mamas, no matter how you spend your 8-5, you’re still a mom. For that reason alone, we moms collectively feel your glory and your pain. Motherhood is more than playing nice; it’s about the unspoken understanding of our shared journey and all the joys and frustrations that come along with it.

What’s your take on the whole SAHM/WAHM/WOHM thing? Aren’t we all in this together?

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