A few months ago, we discussed the one word women should stop saying. And it seems Pantene agrees with us — as women, we need to stop saying we’re “sorry.” Why? Because apologizing for taking up space is unnecessary; because stating an opinion at work is stronger (far stronger) without first apologizing; and after all, doesn’t the overuse of “I’m sorry” weaken the phrase when we actually do need to apologize?
It’s not just in conversation, either. When you’re sending emails, are you inadvertently apologizing for your thoughts?
I watched the video below yesterday, and noticed afterwards the emails that came in from work. Wouldn’t you know it, there was an “I’m sorry” from our newest team member! I’ll bet I’m not the only one who has noticed the over-apologizing culture we willingly belong to.
The first step is acknowledging the problem. The second step is to stop apologizing. The third step is to keep living our lives.
Maybe leaning in really is that simple.
So what do we stay in place of “I’m sorry?” How do we change the dialogue? This article in Role Reboot discusses how often men interrupt versus men (hint: it’s a lot more) and offers three phrases to use instead:
“Stop interrupting me.”
“I just said that.”
“No explanation needed.”
When said in an even tone, these phrases will point out the problem.
So who’s with me? Will you make the effort to stop saying “sorry?” Watch the video below and see what I’m talking about!
Video courtesy of YouTube/Pantene
Image courtesy of calgrin